The ability to to listen and then to actually hear are two separate and distinct pieces to this puzzle.
HOW TO GET HIM…OR HER TO HEAR WHAT YOU SAY WHEN YOU TALK?
- We-You-He-She-They all have to be tuned into ACTIVE LISTENING (as opposed to or instead of passive listening)
- Then we have to contend with SELECTIVE HEARING (This means that we all live in our own little worlds and that often the same words or phrases can mean two different things to two different people)
- Start confirming with one another that INDEED WHAT WAS SAID WAS HEARD AND TAKEN IN by repeating back or summarising what the person speaking just finished saying.
- Something like, “..’If I heard you correctly, what you just said was…____________.’ Is that accurate?”
And there is so much more to it. Like the Yin-Yang mix, cultural background, education, household environment, parental role-models and each person’s own personal experiences with love, relationships, interpersonal dialogue and our own private little “Idaho” individualized worlds! ENJOY the VIDEO!